If you have a consultation with a collaboratively-trained attorney or a mediator, that professional will go through all of the different process options there are and help you figure out which one is best for your situation. In the meantime, some general words of wisdom are that for mediation, you and your spouse should have empathy for one another and want to avoid a courtroom process. If those two things are true, most mediators can work with any other challenges that can arise.