How to Support a Friend Going Through Divorce
Divorce is a turbulent sea that can rock even the sturdiest ships. If a friend in your life is facing this emotional and legal journey, your support can be their guiding light. At Kehoe Moneyhun Law LLC, we understand that being there for a friend during a divorce is invaluable. In this blog, we’ll provide you with insights and tips on how to provide meaningful support to your friend as they navigate the challenging waters of divorce.
Understanding the Emotions
Divorce often brings a whirlwind of emotions – from sadness and anger to confusion and fear. The first step in supporting your friend is to empathize with their feelings. Allow them to express their emotions and understand that it is perfectly normal for them to change their mind and feel differently depending on the day.
Just Listen
Sometimes, all a person needs is someone to listen. Create a safe space where your friend can talk openly about their thoughts and feelings without judgment. Your attentive presence can provide immense comfort during this time of upheaval.
Respecting Their Privacy
While your friend might appreciate your support, it’s important to respect their need for privacy, too. Avoid sharing details of their situation without their permission, and allow them to share as much or as little as they’re comfortable with.
Practical Assistance
Divorce often comes with a myriad of practical challenges. Offer specific assistance, such as helping them research divorce lawyers, accompanying them to appointments, or assisting with childcare arrangements. Your practical support can alleviate some of the stress they’re experiencing.
Be a Source of Normalcy
Amidst the chaos of divorce, your friendship can provide a sense of stability. Continue inviting your friend to social activities and gatherings, ensuring they feel included and connected to their support network, and give them lots of space to say “no.”
Celebrate Small Victories
Divorce proceedings can be lengthy and challenging. Celebrate the small victories along the way – whether it’s a successful court appearance or a step toward emotional healing. Your encouragement can be a motivating force.
Avoid Judgment
Divorce is a deeply personal decision, and your friend has likely put a lot of thought into every decision he/she/they are making. Refrain from passing judgment or offering unsolicited advice. Instead, be a sounding board for thoughts and feelings.
Suggest Professional Help
If you notice your friend struggling to cope with emotions, consider gently suggesting professional help. Mental health professionals can offer the tools and strategies needed to navigate the emotional challenges of divorce.
Stay Connected
Divorce can be isolating, so make an effort to stay connected with your friend. Regular check-ins, even just a simple text message, can remind them that they’re not alone on this journey.
Offering Non-Judgmental Advice
If your friend seeks advice, offer it without imposing your own beliefs. Present options, pros, and cons objectively, allowing them to make informed decisions that align with their needs. If you decide to offer advice or information about other people’s divorces to help with context, make sure you explain and understand that no two divorces are the same. Leave space for your friend to have a totally different experience and make a completely different decision than someone else.
At Kehoe Moneyhun Law LLC, we understand that divorce is more than just a legal process – it’s an emotional journey. Your support can be a beacon of light for your friend during this challenging time. Together, we can help them navigate these waters and emerge stronger on the other side.
(This blog is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal advice. For personalized guidance on divorce matters, consult with the compassionate team at Kehoe Moneyhun Law LLC.)
